Successful submissive training entails many elements. To be effective, the dominant must understand their sub and establish rapport. Furthermore, an allotted amount of time must be set aside for learning, trial-and-error and finding a rhythm.
At this stage, the dominant should use operant conditioning techniques to encourage desirable behaviors while discouraging undesirable ones – for instance rewarding them when they follow your directions and punishing them when they don’t.
1. Know your Submissive’s Personality
Personality plays an essential role in BDSM dynamics. While some traits may remain immutable, others aspects of an employee’s character can be changed with patience and training.
As an example, some submissives become shy and avoid conflict due to low confidence. These women need to develop self-esteem and evaluate the beliefs they were brought up on; if they find themselves in submissive relationships they may seek out other female subs for friendship and support; open communication must also play a vital role here allowing her to express her concerns and set her own goals.
2. Know Your Submissive’s Goals
At training sessions, it is vital to keep in mind your sub’s experience level and personal goals when using rewards and punishments; consistent usage could mean the difference between success and failure for them.
Cuffmarks, metal bites or silk burns as markers of progress during skill-training sessions can be an enjoyable way to assess training progress for both Dom and sub, especially when learning services like sexual and oral. Doing this will ensure training sessions are both efficient and enjoyable for you both.
3. Know Your Submissive’s Limits
Doms often make the mistake of following an overly rigid training routine without considering their sub’s individual needs, leading them into an exhausting training schedule which strains both their mind and body. This often leads to overtraining.
Communicating openly is key to understanding your submissive’s limits, even if this means simply engaging in a discussion about her hard and soft limits.
If your sub wishes not to engage in electro play, respect their boundaries accordingly and do not abuse BDSM practices; rather this shows respect for their personal limitations.
4. Know Your Submissive’s Preferences
Asking plenty of questions helps you gain a thorough understanding of your submissive’s preferences, boundaries and arousal needs so you can better serve them, provide feedback and keep the relationship safe for both parties involved.
Remember, a sub’s goal should always be to please their Dom in all aspects of their relationship – physical, emotional and mental submission are all important parts. Consistent training will make this easier.
5. Know Your Submissive’s Strengths
Submissives who possess certain strengths can find great success in their training. For instance, an effective submissive can learn to listen and obey without question the instructions from their Dom.
Requiring discipline and sensitivity, an excellent submissive can communicate their boundaries and desires clearly and respectfully.
Operant conditioning training can also be used successfully for BDSM training; rewarding desired behaviors while punishing unwanted ones will reward desired ones while discouraging unwanted ones. To be successful with this type of instruction, however, one must know their sub’s reluctance levels beforehand.
6. Know Your Submissive’s Weaknesses
Training requires clear communication between yourself and your sub, including an agreement on a “safe word” which can be used if play becomes too intense for either of you.
Training skills related to your forms of service like cooking or massage is also an effective way of making sure they’re more prepared for any intimate scenes you plan together.
Some Doms approach sub training as an all-or-nothing process, which can quickly turn into disaster. Knowing your sub’s weaknesses and slowly working to address them over time are crucial steps.
7. Know Your Submissive’s Strengths
Understanding what drives and motivates your submissive can make or break their training success, as well as determine which techniques would be the most suitable.
Subcontractors respond differently to rewards or punishments. Whatever their response, consistency is key in building effective teams.
An important step to fostering an enriching relationship is knowing your submissive’s limits. They should never feel pressured into taking on roles they don’t feel comfortable in – this will lead to mutually beneficial service arrangements and ensure they get what they want out of this experience.
8. Know Your Submissive’s Weaknesses
A dominant should always remain aware and actively train their submissive to adhere to certain expectations and adhere to discipline when needed. These include ignoring unwanted behavior, training them to reach an acceptable level of obedience, and applying discipline as required.
A successful BDSM relationship requires considerable time and energy. Dominants must communicate their desires and expectations clearly from day one, as well as be comfortable in their dominance from the get go. Meanwhile, submissives must trust their Dominator enough to comply with his/her commands.
9. Know Your Submissive’s Strengths
Submissive training can be an excellent way for doms to help their submissives hone their skills and become better servants of them. This may involve improving concentration so as to more easily please their dominant, learning new etiquette or protocol and gaining more control of their bodies.
An essential aspect of submissive training is understanding your submissive’s limits. This can be achieved through open dialogue and respecting their boundaries. Ignoring unwanted behaviors may help your submissive learn to stop engaging in them altogether.
10. Know Your Submissive’s Weaknesses
Life as a BDSM sub is not always easy, even for subs who have received proper training; mistakes can happen more frequently in 24/7 relationships where stressors like full-time jobs and children exist.
Doms must identify their sub’s weaknesses and train accordingly, whether this involves cooking and massage skills or more sensual forms of service like sex positions and roleplaying. Consistency is key in rewarding or punishing subs; otherwise it could damage their trust and respect of their Dom.
